The Rules I Play By

As many of you know, this blog is also about my Pagan practices, so today I would like to post a little commentary about the rules that I have to follow in my practices. A few weeks ago, a friend of mine came to visit and seemed to be infuriated about the fact that my specialty is Love/Lust magick. She told me that, such magick is forbidden to anyone and everyone. My friend is not Pagan or Wiccan or any variation of any term similar to these. More information on this is on my Xanga Blog. The link should be to the right of the screen.

Anyway, I took some time since her visit to sit down and write down the rules that I have to play by in my line of work, so to speak. In a meditation, my goddess, Aphrodite, told me that I am not to cast for myself. As much as I would really like to, I have to obey her wishes or I could end up losing what little ability I do have. Secondly, I am forbidden to cast for those who are deeply depressed becuase they are single.

The reason for that rule is because anyone who comes into the querent's life will ultimately leave. I know for a fact that if you are depressed, no one is going to want to stay near you for very long. As much as you wish me to, I cannot affect a person's free will. I cannot make someone fall madly in love with you forever and ever. As hard as it may seem, it is you who is doing most of the work, not me. I implore you, if you are unhappy because you are single, please dont come running to me, asking me to conjur you up a new boyfriend/girlfriend.

Also, one thing that you have to keep in mind is that relationships are not measured in days or weeks. Remember that I am allowed to cast against you if it is in your own benefit. In other words, if you want to get married after only 3 weeks, then I can throw a little spell to make you see your partner's true face. Remember also that I do not, DO NOT, have the ability to end your relationship. Relationships must be began and ended by free will, and what is rule number 3? I can not affect free will. If your relationship ends, I am certainly not to blame.

Depression & Love

I was talking with a friend last night who told me he was depressed that he was single. This is something that people have been telling me about quite frequently lately. Let me be the first to admit that last year, I was depressed about my single status, but after some time thinking about it, I realized that I was better off figuring out what it is that I want from myself before I try for a relationship blindly.

Anyway, the more I talked with this friend, the more I understood that his main problem is his depression. Sadly, I dont have any advice about getting out of depression as it is a much different process for every person. For me it was a simply change of scenery. The only thing I can say about depression is that, in order to get out of depression, you must first WANT to get out of it. If you want to stay depressed, then dont come to me crying that you are single and no man wants you. First of all, I dont know a man alive who wants to date a "Weeping Belle".

Secondly, I dont want you getting depressed that you cant find true love in a bar. My only rebuttle to that is "No Duh!!" Bar relationships are much the same as goldfish. Very few can live a few months but most of them die within a week.

Anyway, back to the more important issue. If you cant love yourself and love life in general, then how can you expect someone else to love you? This is a hard lesson to learn and accept, but it is the most true. Just remember that there is a sliver lining in all things. If anyone happens upon this and would like help finding their silver lining, just send me a message. I check my e-mails daily and I have quite a bit of experience doing such. It is how I went from sad, lonely and depressed to having lots of men and loving every minute of every day.